Some thoughts about life and motherhood…

Hustling for my worth is exhausting. If I think that getting the approval of my kids, my husband, my parents or my friends will make me love myself, I am wrong. It works for a minute (like a dopamine hit) but it isn’t lasting. It’s an insatiable desire. I have to seek my own approval. […]

“Me Filter”

We have a hard time separating ourselves from other people and their actions. We commonly run everything through the filter of “me”. When we let go of the “me filter” we can view things more clearly. Example 1: My child lied to me. My thought: I am a bad mother. Example 2: My co-worker didn’t […]

Enter the Arena

As we sat in the south end zone at the BYU game, we watched the punt returner stand alone, waiting for a high punt to reach his arms as his opponents were rushing toward him in hopes of tackling him to the ground. Tom said to me, “You would have to have nerves of steel […]

At the end of one of our kids soccer seasons their coach invited us to play in an adults vs kids soccer game. As we panted up and down the field I felt bad for all the times we had yelled from the sidelines, “Run faster!” I have never played competitive soccer. I knew very […]


A few weeks ago, late on a Saturday night, I realized we didn’t have any ice cream. We had invited two young couples in our ward over for dinner the next day. I had asked one to bring a half gallon of ice cream and the other to bring toppings for banana splits. I was […]

When our kids have challenges in their lives, we can either jump into the pool and flail helplessly with them, or we can remain calm on the side of the pool and throw them a lifeline. Sometimes we feel like jumping in shows them we care. It shows them we are really invested. But is […]

I Can Listen

We often fear the things we don’t understand. Our brains are constantly looking for danger. Part of our brain’s job is to protect us and keep us alive, so it makes perfect sense. But sometimes our brain thinks things are dangerous that actually are not. Another person with a different opinion doesn’t need to be […]

I love her!

I was mad at my body for a long time. I wanted her to be smaller. I was 5’8″ in the eighth grade. I thought I was bigger than all the girls in the world. As I grew into adulthood I logically knew it wasn’t true, but it was hard for me to drop the […]

Must See Inside

When we were first married we lived in Sugar House in a 70 year old house. The neighborhood was filled with newly renovated cottages and others that needed some love and attention. It was common to see a FOR SALE sign with this additional plug, “MUST SEE INSIDE.”A house that looked a little dated on […]

It Doesn’t Need to be Perfect

A common “meltdown” time for me is the hour before the ______________ fill in the blank. It could be my daughter’s birthday party, company for dinner, or anyone coming to stay. The day generally starts out fine. I have my list. I have the allotted amount of time for each item written next to it. […]


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